We all need different personal development strategies at different times. I'd like to share what's working for me right now. Self-development tactics that are helping me get and stay focused for the path ahead! I'll also attempt to include some humor in as well!
How to Become Your Own Personal Success Coach
It can be difficult to keep your focus on a goal when you have various other stresses such as work on your mind all the time. Success coaching is a rapidly growing industry and many people want to recruit someone to help them achieve their goals and dreams. Professional help is actually unnecessary. There are ways to coach yourself successfully.
What Does a Success Coach Do?
A success coach, or life coach, is trained to help people reach their personal goals. They are like a mentor in some ways but, rather than being based in one industry, they can work with clients in a variety of jobs.
The job of the coach is to assess your skills and help you develop them and overcome any shortcomings. They find out your strengths and limitations and work with them to improve yourself. You can make life changes, overcome problems and challenges and enhance your skills.
If you are your own success coach, you will already have a good idea of what your strengths and weaknesses are. You will know what changes you want to make in your life and what you need to change. You are responsible for your own happiness and you can find how to make yourself satisfied and happy with your life.
First, Set Your Goals
You can't start making changes to your life without doing some serious brainstorming. If you want to change one particular aspect of your life, you can make a note of your goals in relation to that. Get some paper and a pen and write down everything that comes to mind. Don't worry about whether or not you think it can be achieved. Just focus for now on what you want. When you have the correct plan, just about everything is attainable but just do step one for now - write down everything you want to change or do.
When you have completed your goal list, you need to decide which thing to focus on first. It is best to tackle one goal at a time rather than try to do everything at once. Choose the goals that will make you happiest to start with. If you live for others, sacrificing your own happiness, that is a great disservice, both to them and to yourself. You cannot make others truly happy unless you are happy yourself.
In the next part, we will look at how to set goals and measure your success at achieving them.
The first thing to do to be your own success coach is to decide on your goals. When you have done this, you need to pick which one to tackle first.
There is no set way to pick your first goal and some might be more urgent that others. You might decide to begin with a goal you have had for some time. Go for whatever feels right to you.
Plan Each Goal
When you have chosen your goal, set yourself a timeframe for completion. This is not a deadline as such but more of a finish line, to give yourself something to aim for. You can plan smaller projects, doing this, that will all lead to your main goal.
Write down what your biggest goal is and the date by which you want to achieve it. If, for instance, you want to lose 20 lbs of weight, a milestone might be shedding the first 5 lbs. If your goal is not to smoke a cigarette for 6 months (by which time your cravings will be gone) you should aim for 2 months of being smoke-free first, since 2 months sounds easier than 6 months. Reward yourself with a treat after reaching each milestone, to encourage your further.
Having intermediate goals can be set at weekly or monthly intervals, depending on the time frame for the main goal. Break down your intermediate goals even more so the main goal seems less scary. Set daily goals if you can, then you will feel like you are making plenty of steps in the right direction, rather than trying to do everything in one big chunk.
The main goal, the intermediate ones and the daily ones are all part of changing your life to make it the way you would ultimately like it. Your smaller, broken down goals are like a map to guide you on the way to reaching the biggest one.
Choose Diverse Goals
When you have broken down your goal steps, check your master list and choose something that deals with a different part of your life. You can work on more than one goal at once but only have one goal per area, to balance them out. You can have perhaps one family goal, a health one and a work one. This is easier than having three health goals to deal with at one time.
In the next part we will look at how to get over bumps and slip ups along the way to reaching your goals.
Writing down your goals and taking steps to achieve them is just part of becoming successful. Life has its own twists and turns and loves to surprise us. Sometimes we experience change, disappointment and circumstances beyond our control. Sometimes we might feel as though we have failed, either in a big or small way. You need to deal with this failure then get back on track.
Overcoming Problems
If things do not seem to be going how you want, it is easy to lose hope and feel discouraged. You might miss a goal deadline or feel things are moving too slowly. Perhaps an unforeseen event knocks you totally off course.
First of all, take a deep breath and realize it is all right. Everyone goes through this. The important thing is how you react and deal with it.
You will need to pick yourself up off the floor sometimes and start over. When you have a glitch on your path, you have to keep going. Everyone who is successful now has failed at some point in the past. Nobody is perfect. Every failure moves you closer to your goal because you can learn from it what went wrong. But you do have to keep on going.
Maybe you have an 'inner critic' who tells you that after failure it is not worth bothering to pursue this goal. This is just down to negative thinking. Be strong, tell the critic their advice is unwelcome and keep on going.
Planning the Future
If you have experienced a setback, be it small or large, you have to reprioritize. Perhaps the setback was due to circumstances you couldn't have controlled. Maybe you needed more time or information to make your plan work. Ask yourself if you are still happy with the goals you chose and if you are happy with the whole process.
Keep happiness and fulfillment at the top of your priority list. Try to minimize the impact of your weaknesses and focus on your strengths. Plan your goals so you can do them in smaller steps. If you have a setback, reevaluate your plan. The most important thing is to encourage yourself to keep going, no matter what.
What makes you tick? What really gets you excited? What motivates you?
Those aren't just great "getting to know you" questions. They are at the very core of self-improvement and personal growth and success. Understanding your own personal motivations provides you with a key that will help unlock many of life's mysteries.
Let's face it, all of us want a better life. We may define what constitutes a better life in a variety of different ways, but all of us want to see things get even better for us and those about whom we care the most. You want improvement and you recognize that the only person you can really improve (not to mention the one who matters most to you on a personal level) is YOU.
That means you will have to go from your current "Spot A" to the "Spot B" of your dreams. That journey may involve a few stops along the way. It will certainly involve making changes and pushing ahead even on days when it would be easier to revert back to "Spot A."
No one is going to be standing behind you as you walk that path, prodding you along. No one will be dangling a carrot in front of you, tricking you to march forward. If you want to get from "Spot A" to "Spot B," you will have to make that happen yourself. The only way to keep trudging along is by finding the right motivation to propel you down the road.
If you latch on to weak motivations or shallow inspiration, you will soon find yourself abandoning the process. However, if you can isolate what really matters the most to you, it is possible to reach your goals. Motivations are important!
So, how do you determine what motivates you?
Some people know their motivations and can list them off without a thought. These people, for whatever reason, are perfectly in tune with "their calling" and understand what keeps them going day in and day out as they strive to reach their goals. Most of us, however, aren't quite that lucky. In the mad rush of work, home responsibilities, grocery shopping, paying bills, getting the car repaired, going to the dentist and doing task after task at high speed, it is easy to lose track of our core motivations. Most of us have to look for them.
The first thing you must do is to remember that what motivates me may not motivate you. Motivations are very personal. They develop based on our own experience, background, educations, and understandings of the world. There is not universal set of motivations (aside from basic physiological needs, of course). If you're looking for your motivations in someone other than yourself, you are looking in the wrong direction.
Finding your motivations requires a bit of introspection. You will want to think about past successes and what pushed you along the way during those projects. You will want to consider the goals you have always held to the most strongly; evaluating them to discover what core principles inspired them. Your motivations are your own, and no one else will be able to hand them to you on a handy list. You will have to dig within your own history and psyche to discover them.
The good news is that doing so is well worth the efforts. Once you have isolated the motivations that "make you tick," you can begin to move forward to reach your own maximum potential. While others may struggle with plans and ready-made solutions that don't match them and result in frustration, you will be able to make sure your plan for personal success comports with the very things that keep you going strong. Aligning your plan of attack with a solid understanding of your motivations will supercharge your self-improvement efforts.
What are your motivations? If you don't have an honest and correct answer to that question, it's high time to develop one.
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