Do You Have Low Self-Esteem?

You know you have low self-esteem when you always feel unworthy, uncomfortable with whom you are and what you are doing and not fitting to where you are. Self-esteem means to have a view of yourself, of your body, your mind and your capabilities.

Do not always question your worth and potential. This keeps you from succeeding in what you do. If you are not very self-confident, be aware of the fact that you are not alone in this position. There are many persons suffering from low self-esteem. It is important for you to give an honest answer to some questions to see how you think about yourself.

Do you feel strange and nervous around other people? Do you consider yourself as on a lower level than the others mentally or physically? Do you think you are not as important as other members of the family, of an association you are part of, as your colleagues? If you see the things that way, this may destroy your self-esteem. Try to get feedback about your actions or attitudes from your family, co-workers –most likely you will be pleasantly surprised to find out how they see you. Very often people with low self-esteem try to please everyone else in order to feel fitting and more adequate, but they forget about their own needs. And it is exactly these own needs that you need to focus on in order to get a better self-esteem.

Other questions you need to find the answers to, are: Are you dissatisfied with your looks? Do you always try to look better? These questions more often apply to women and young people and usually have their origin in comments made by friends, schoolmates or family members. These comments make you think of particular qualities you did not know you had or point out something you never thought about. They might cause obsession for certain things, which can turn into serious problems. They can be linked to appearance, weight or certain characteristics.

Do you often make jokes about yourself? Are you trying to make fun of yourself to make he others laugh? Many people with a low self-esteem talk about their weak points. They discuss these aspects of their personality rather than focusing on the positive. They express what bothers them instead of concentrating on all the other positive things they have. Today’s society brought us so far that even the most beautiful person strives for something better. So don’t worry that you are left alone with a problem like this. Try to see your good parts before you analyse the ones you do not like. If you see that you fall deeper and deeper in obsessions of any kind and you cannot help yourself any more, you might consider professional help. If others like you, why shouldn’t you like yourself? You need to feel comfortable in your own skin; you need to learn to live with yourself. Do not ignore low self-esteem but try to get over it. (Better Living)